Lifestyle

There’s no way around the fact that dating is a numbers game, but it's rare to find people who are dating enough.
My mantra is one date per week, at least.

Your lifestyle (how you are living your life) is going to determine how many people your meeting, and dating. If its not working for you, then something has to change.

Whether the following is right or not is up to you. (But I will remind you that there are a lot of people who are wrong, who seem to be doing alright for themselves.)

Date multiple people at the same time. It isn’t about dating one person at a time anymore. Life is too short. Your not dating on principle, its on market forces, and its not ‘I’ its ‘the game'.

Always be meeting new people.You can't run a business without new clients and its the same for dating. Let me give an example here. If there is a pack of cards on the table, and you take two cards, what are the chances that you have the Ace of Spades? One in twenty six. Not really great odds. But what if you had eighteen cards? You’d have a one third chance and now you are looking more likely.

Put yourself first. You want to meet someone(s) because it makes you feel good. Easily forgotten.

Focus on what you can control, don’t try and control what you can’t.  A good relationship is two people. And you can't control if the other person hangs around or not. Just focus on the choices you have control over.

Play to your strategy. Don't try to be something, 'funny' for example, Humor can easily work against you and its not the joke that your love interest wants to fuck. Humor can be used to relieve tension, which is something that you might want to keep in your conversation.

Interact with the world. I see it all the time, people with headphones in, typing on their phones wishing they were some place else. People think that dating is about only talking to the people they are interested in. Not the case. Start talking to people at the pedestrian crossing, at the check out etc. You don't want to be making meeting someone a big deal, and you don't want to be talking to people differently based on your desires and your value of them.

Give yourself permission Honestly, I think the rise of internet dating owes a lot to giving people permission. It tells people here is a dating website, you can date here. (That and anonymity creating a lack of rejection.) It is okay for you to meet people even if you have no other reason than 'being social'. Give yourself permission.

They are all the same. Yep, simple as that.

Hope this helps,

Joehann