What to do with those exciting feelings...

Im sure that you have found being around people that you would like to date/relationship/see nude our emotions act up.

We go all funny, our awareness of how we act seems to heighten and other objects and situations that may have been important tend to have less of our focus now.

It is exciting!

But generally, I think our initial response to this is to try and hide it.

"Don't let him/her see me give anything away!"
"Don't let them know I like them."

And we tend to look from a distance...

I wanted to bring this to attention because I want to ask why?

Nothing good comes from keeping it to yourself. I would like to suggest that next time this happens to you, be ok with it. Feel it and feel good about it.

I think the problem here is people communication rather than their feelings or desires.

I mean, if you like someone you don't really want hurt them, you want to love them ;)

But people tend to hide their feelings because they don't know what to do about them. The real issue is communication,

"how do I (you) tell the subject of our affection that we think they are beautiful/handsome/sexy/amazing/awesome/funny/smart etc."

Im not going to come out and say 'just tell them' etc. because that is a cop out on my behalf.

What I do suggest is that you think of something, for 20 seconds after you read this, to deal with this before it happens.

Imagine your waiting for the walk signal at the traffic lights and that person stands beside you, or its a new colleague at work/university.

Just in case we get a little dumb struck when it does happen (which does happen all the time) :)

And even though it might not come out as smooth as you please if the situation does occur 'in real life', but it will in your imagination...

Enjoy,

Hope this helps.

Joehann.

Random

What exactly do you want? And I don't mean a throw away statement like financial freedom or to fall in love. I mean what exactly do you want? I ask because the other side to the question is want to know is what are you going to pass up in your life, what are you going to give up and what are you going to say no to?

What I am getting at is what some people call their line in the sand, some their mission statement. 

Can we just get what we want, can we just pick it and be happy, or is there a greater force in play that we have to align with or at least consider? 

Is just picking something going to give you the drive and motivation to get it. Personally at the moment I feel like I'm trying to listen to myself to find what I want, so I can go after it. But something tells me that I'm not correctly listening if I am expecting a certain result.

Back to what we don't want, when you think of your future what do you think of?

Poor, lonely, unhappy... What about more tangeable things, maybe instead of what do you want, how about what can't you live without?

And when I say this I include things such as convenience, luxuries, ease, not just ideals and principles that people always seem to be idolising.

How do we find the answer to this, what we cant live without. First thought in my mind was to find a situation which is different from our day to day. Where we need to be proactive about how we rank things in our life and what we select, if only given certain choices. Be less comfortable in certain terms.

This is just food for thought at the moment, but also another way to look at an age old question about our lives, meaning and happiness.

Hope this helps,

Joe Hann