Choice

This is what everyone really wants...

Choice.
You may be reading this and thinking something else, but let me explain.

Choice is about having the right and power to choose. To be in a position of power.

But if you had the power to choose it might even affect your choice.

Ever seen politicians make big promises and come across strong in a certain area, until they have the power to actually do something about it and don't follow through with their promises!

You may wish for something, maybe even set it as a goal for yourself, but once you get there, like standing on top of a mountain, somewhere in the new view, you see something else you want.

Choice gives us options.

It seems silly and basic but it gets overlooked quite a bit.
Especially when it comes to meeting people.

Sometimes its easy to get caught up in achieving, accumulating and possessing.

But our feelings can't ever be appeased by something that 'gives' us a feeling. Like a particular person or relationship.

That is why choice is so important.

Because choice is something that we can have. It gives us the confidence which is the feeling. The partner (which people tend to anchor the feelings too) may turn out to be a this or a that, (which then effects our feelings) but our choice and power to choose is ours, and cannot be taken from us.

To give my power to someone to 'make me happy', is too risky for me...
Make yourself happy.

Hope this helps.
Chris.

Excuse me.

I've tried writing some entries over the past two weeks, and i've ended up with quite a few half posts.
After my kitchen goes in my time will be less demanded by my house, and there will be more time for outside passions, and my head will be a little clearer.

Chris.

Lessons from 'Old' and 'Young' people.

The father of a friend of mine told me he noticed something with 'Old' people vs 'Young' people.

He claims 'Young' people tend to wear clothes that add to their identity, shirts with names, logos, jeans with tears, clothes different sizes, tight, short, long, baggy, Designer brands, brand names, buying clothes from certain stores. etc. etc.

And that 'Old' people tend not to feel the need to express themselves with their clothes.
The theory, 'young' people don't have experience and need to add to their identity.

'Old' people have the experience and are generally more comfertable with who they are, whether others know it or not.
In my opinion he is bias toward his own generation, but everyone is at least a little bias to their own situation.

From this observation you might take out that 'young' people are more inclined to wear clothes made with newer techniques.

Anyhow back to the point.

I'd like to give a different spin on this observation and theory, to put forward that identity has more to do with confidence than experience.

Someone who wears clothes with logos for example, is drawing that confidence from outside of themselves. The logo represents something to people, i.e. exclusivity, which adds to your perceived identity.

People with an inner confidence tend not to cloud their identity with outside influences.
Almost like a void of obvious identity is a blank canvas, allowing other traits to fill in the picture.

So how much stuff do we have in our lives that is driven by our sense of outside identity?

A good point to finish on.

Hope this helps.

Chris.

What is your attitude?

I ask you a question, one that you may not truly know the answer to,

What is your attitude?

What words would you use to describe it?
Is it positive, closed, hopeful, happy.

Let me give you an example, that  you can answer.
If you sit down on the train for instance, what do you want to happen? Whats the best outcome for your train trip?
What if someone comes and sits next to you for instance, is that a good or bad thing?

You may answer however you answer and think that is the end of it. But is it?
What if your idea partner came and sat in the same booth on the train. Or what if young kid and all his school mates come and fill in your booth.
Now your thinking about it.
Which is good, so ill ask again,

What is your attitude?

And to be a little more specific;

Do you look forward to new in your life?
What is your outlook on your life in particular?


Attitude and outlook is very important in life. And especially when your meeting people. It effects how people act and react towards you. Male/Female it doesn't matter.

In a lot of ways meeting and dating people can tell you a lot about yourself. Someone you haven't met and don't know from a bar of soap, can  really only go off what your giving them.
It can be a great way to get information on questions that are tough to ask of yourself.

Hope this helps.

Joehann.
Melbourne Matchmaker.