What do you talk about when your dating?
Anything that involves the mind generally isn't a good topic for social conversation when your out anywhere, especially on a date.
When at work, you want the measurements, figures, facts etc that's great, but leave them there. When your out light hearted social banter is what is called for.
The best conversations I find are like the best dances. You feel like you've had an amazing experience, and you have, but your in the same space, and you don't really know anything about the other person, (facts and figures, job, interests wise etc.).
It's about us as people and that can sometimes get lost in the content.
If you have ever had a great connection with someone you probably don't remember what you talked about, or you can't really explain it to someone else, because its just for you two.
Remember that we are keeping our mind out of our dating sex life, so not being able to remember or explain is a good thing!
Keeping the conversations light, and the courtship/relationship light creates and strengthens bonds between people, and keeps it fun.
This can get a little lost sometimes.
Hope this helps.
Joehann
Friday, May 20, 2011
Thursday, May 19, 2011
An explanation.
I can't explain dating and sex. Nor does it need explaining.
I would like to make it clear that this part of our lives isn't about our brain. Because if it were, we would have an explanation.
I do appreciate attempted explanations. The arguments that we are advancing our species, evolving to outwit diseases and pooling our genes, testing out potential mates, and playing our best strategy for the future.
These may well be true but it doesn't explain everything that we feel and experience. It also doesn't explain the rituals of courtship and why some of us feel the need to get married.
It also doesn't explain why the people who go around spruiking this type of belief are usually single. :P
I firmly believe that courtship/dating/sex is not of our mind. It is not necesarily the 'smart' thing to, but we do it because we are human, and its part of what makes us human.
Being not of our mind, it is also not of our ego. We can't own it, we can't possess it and we can't obtain stature because of it.
Sometimes I see people, fighting what they are born to do, when it comes to sex and courtship. I see courtship being learned and people trying to study it and craft it into a power they can have.
The irony here is that some people come out the other side realising what it really is.
It's something that we do as humans, living our lives, and when were not humans anymore, we will stop doing it.
Hope this helps.
Joehann.
I would like to make it clear that this part of our lives isn't about our brain. Because if it were, we would have an explanation.
I do appreciate attempted explanations. The arguments that we are advancing our species, evolving to outwit diseases and pooling our genes, testing out potential mates, and playing our best strategy for the future.
These may well be true but it doesn't explain everything that we feel and experience. It also doesn't explain the rituals of courtship and why some of us feel the need to get married.
It also doesn't explain why the people who go around spruiking this type of belief are usually single. :P
I firmly believe that courtship/dating/sex is not of our mind. It is not necesarily the 'smart' thing to, but we do it because we are human, and its part of what makes us human.
Being not of our mind, it is also not of our ego. We can't own it, we can't possess it and we can't obtain stature because of it.
Sometimes I see people, fighting what they are born to do, when it comes to sex and courtship. I see courtship being learned and people trying to study it and craft it into a power they can have.
The irony here is that some people come out the other side realising what it really is.
It's something that we do as humans, living our lives, and when were not humans anymore, we will stop doing it.
Hope this helps.
Joehann.
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